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Dr. Cort's avatar

Great post. Sometimes kids (or anyone, really) also just want to be heard. They don’t want to debate their feelings or be inadvertently invalidated. Especially from well meaning parents.

Jeremy L's avatar

Exactly. A lot of the time they don’t want a solution or a debate...

they just want to know they’re being heard. Especially from the people they trust most.

Jessica Drapluk's avatar

amazing article, Jeremy! I love how you think and I really like how you encourage your kids to think and reflect as well. they are going to be astute, emotionally mature adults when they grow up thanks to you being their dad!

Jeremy L's avatar

Thank you! I really appreciate that.

I’m learning alongside them most days, but if they grow up thinking well and reflecting honestly, I’ll call that a win.

Matt Brewer's avatar

Love this! Thanks for sharing. I’m going to remember resilient thinking. I have been doing a blessing journal as inspired by someone else on here and it has helped me in my thinking as well.

Jeremy L's avatar

That is awesome. Our nightly routine includes naming what we’re are grateful for out loud.

Hard to go to bed holding the days baggage when you hear your kids talk about the things that make them smile!

Matt Brewer's avatar

Love this one too! We do that some at bath time, but I need to be more consistent with it.

Maury Wood's avatar

In our house, we say if you look for the negative, you'll find it everytime. Breaking it up into steps is as great strategy.

Mental Health 4 Men's avatar

The song just keeps playing in my head after reading your tittle.

Jeremy L's avatar

Who knew a Lego movie could help us with our mental health?!?!?!

Will | Phone Free's avatar

Another great piece, and really arrestingly expressed. I am used to the idea I need to accept my own feelings. Now more alert to the danger of unwittingly not accepting my kids' feelings. P.s. also yes, song stuck in head thank you for that 😀

Jeremy L's avatar

Appreciate this. It’s wild how easy it is to theoretically accept feelings…

right up until they’re loud, inconvenient, or happening in the cereal aisle.

Also, you’re welcome / I’m sorry for the song. 🎶