From my experience in coaching, yelling just makes the kid that much more anxious. They start saying, "Please, don't throw it to me." We need to be encouraging so their confidence turns that into, "Please, throw it to me." Good encouraging words.
Poweful framework. The voice swap idea resonated becuase most self-improvement advice just tells you to push harder instead of changing the quality of your internal dialogue. I dunno if people realize how much damage the old school coaching voice actually does to long-term motivation. This reminded me I need to be way more intentional about the tone I use when talking to myself.
From my experience in coaching, yelling just makes the kid that much more anxious. They start saying, "Please, don't throw it to me." We need to be encouraging so their confidence turns that into, "Please, throw it to me." Good encouraging words.
Poweful framework. The voice swap idea resonated becuase most self-improvement advice just tells you to push harder instead of changing the quality of your internal dialogue. I dunno if people realize how much damage the old school coaching voice actually does to long-term motivation. This reminded me I need to be way more intentional about the tone I use when talking to myself.
Yep. Turns out yelling “DO BETTER” at yourself works about as well as it does with tired kids…
briefly,
and then not at all.